Smart phones are smart, but are you?

A beep beep on your smartphone will distract you from whatever you are working on. You will loose your focus.

And according to Gloria Mark, once you are distracted from your original task you need 23 minutes and 15 seconds to get back to start focusing again. That is almost half an hour.

So imagine how many times in a day you get distracted by the beeps on your cell phone.It doesn’t matter whether you attend or do not attend it in real time, your mind will immediately get derailed as an element of surprise (who has sent you a whatsapp message etc) will keep your brain thinking on the notification instead of doing the actual work.

So if you want to use smart phones, then learn to use it smartly.

Learn from your past for a successful tomorrow

If you are still counting all the bad patches of your life’s past, it means that you are still living in the past. If you want to be successful, simply get up and say goodbye to all the failures, bad news, mistakes etc of your past. You just need to extract the lessons you can learn from your past events. And with a positive approach heads towards the future. Chances are you will be successful.

Marcel Schwantes, Principal and founder, Leadership From the Core has selected “Choose to leave the past in the past” as one of the 5 Daily Habits of the Brightest and Happiest People.In his article, Marcel quoted Barbara Corcoran, who said, “The difference between successful people and others is how long they spend time feeling sorry for themselves.” Each one of us should frame these words and should read it at the start of each day.

So stop feeling sorry for yourself and move on with your today.

Garbage in, garbage out

Every day we are feeding junk food to our stomachs. Fried chicken, sausages, french fries, cheesy burgers, diet and regular colas, doughnuts, nachos etc are quite common in our daily diet. These items are high on calories with little or no nutritional value. As a result, regular intake leads to high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes, heart issues etc. Hence junk food is very dangerous.

Now if we shift our focus upward from stomach to our brain, we are doing the same with our brain. We are feeding junk to our brain by watching too much television, allowing negative thoughts to sneak inside, too much multitasking, not sleeping adequately, no physical exercise and spending too much on social media. Just like junk food, the brain junk is high on stress, with little or no cognitive value. And hence, it leads to depressions, anxiety, drop in cognitive performance and damage to brain cells.

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So if we stop junking our brain, it may also lead us to think twice before junking our stomach.

The best antidote to brain junk, is to read books, listen to TED talks, see You Tube videos on positivity and inspiration, visit art shows, listen to religious talks, go to mosque or your place of worship, become an avid fan to Jay Shetty’s inspirational telecasts, spend time with family, play with kids or simply keep visiting my website wisdumbs.com

To succeed put fingers in your ears

Your chances of transforming your dreams into a reality depend on how many times you turn a deaf ear to all the negative phrases showered on you by your friends, relatives, family and colleagues (the naysayers).

Some of the frequent phrases you will be blessed with in due course are as follows:

“You cannot do it”

“It is too difficult for you”   

“The idea is beyond your limits”

“You don’t have the resources”

It’s up to you who you believe, naysayers or yourself.

Believing naysayers means saying a big no to your dreams.

Believing yourself means saying a committed and a persistent yes to your dreams.

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Here is a list of some of the phenomenal personalities who put fingers in their ears when they were haunted by the negative people around them:

Farhan Masood was declared a maniac and a fool. He was never taken seriously. Everyone laughed at his crazy self.

Elvis Presley was once told by the concert hall manager that he was better off driving trucks.

After his initial audition, Sidney Poitier was told by the casting director to go out and become a dishwasher?”

Thomas Edison was advised by his teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything.”

A movie firm executive told Harrison Ford that he’d never succeed in the movie business.

Jerry Seinfeld was booed off-stage at the beginning of his comedy career.

These persons believed themselves and after braving the tough waves of circumstances achieved their dreams. Had they believed the naysayers, no one would have remembered them just like no one remembered the naysayers.

So if you are pursuing your dreams and want to succeed, don’t listen to the naysayers around you.

Your Treasure Hunt

As a kid we all played a game where one or more players try to find hidden objects, prizes or places by following a series of clues. You guessed it right, treasure Hunt is the name of that game.

However, despite playing it in our childhood, the dilemma is, as an adult we failed to realize the significance of this game.

The Almighty has kept a secret treasure within ourselves and only if we follow the clues which we keep getting from the stage of our infancy, we will be able to find our treasure … i.e. the passion for something that resides inside us.

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So pause…. waste no more time… find your treasure within…. find your passion and follow through on it.

The longest and the biggest river

Do you know the longest and the biggest river in the world? Can you guess it? Is it river Amazon, Nile, Yangtze, Congo or Indus? You may guess the right name, but to me the longest and the biggest river is the river of possibilities. And the best part is, you can dive into it from anywhere in the world.

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To be a great swimmer in the river of possibilities, your age doesn’t matter, your financial resources, whatever they are, are not pertinent, and you don’t even require any swimming gear.

Take a look around you and you will find some great swimmers of the river of possibilities. Abdul Sattar Edhi, J.K. Rowling, Jim Carrey, Farhan Masood, Jan Koum, Qaiser Abbas, Oprah Winfrey, Ashraf Chaudhry and many more. Nothing stopped these swimmers to achieve their dreams. Most of them had seen tough times. With no resources, they jumped into river of possibilities fearlessly and kept bracing the stormy waves of times till they reached their shores.

So if you have a dream and are passionate about conquering it but something is holding you back. May be it’s the financial resources which you don’t have, may be it’s the fear of failure that is not letting you cross your threshold. My advice is find your river of possibilities and dive into it now.

Start smiling

Are you ready to become an upbeat person?  Do you want to defy gloom and doom within you and the world outside you?

If you are ready and willing to get a head start, start smiling more often. Yes, it is simple. Start smiling more often.

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I am not asking you to smile more often just for the heck of it. I am asking because smiling is:

  • According to our Sunnah, It’s a charity;
  • It triggers several therapeutic benefits within our body. It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, makes you look younger and gives more immunity against diseases;
  • It helps us to interact with people in a positive manner and may also result in a happier mood.

As the list of the benefits of smiling is quite exhaustive, hence would urge you to research more on this topic.

But before we proceed on, let’s have a smile break. How about a big lovely smile on your face.

Ron Gutman, founder and CEO of HealthTap, recently posted a TED.com video talk on The Hidden Power of Smiling

During his talk he cited a UK research where British researchers  found that:

  • One smile can generate the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 chocolate bars; and
  • Smiling can be as stimulating as receiving up to 16,000 Pounds Sterling in cash.

Here is a challenge for all adults who are reading this blog:

Think for a second, how many times do you smile in a day?

Your daily smile statistics might range from 10 to 55 at the max, and you may be considering it as a decent double digit figure. Trust me, even getting a century of smiles in a day is nowhere nearer as compared to children, who, on an average, smile as many as 400 times per day! And that’s why despite all the scolding, children are the happiest lot on earth and richest (16000 pounds sterling x 400 times LOL).

A research study by Orbit Complete discovered that 69 percent of people find women more attractive when they are smiling than when they are wearing makeup.

So, start smiling more often from now onwards, as its benefits are tax free so far, and for a graceful grin practice holding a chopstick or a pencil between your teeth.